In Australia, the topic of mental health is commonly addressed in every day life. The second Thursday of September is a national day of action where everyone is encouraged to start a meaningful conversation whenever they spot the signs that someone they care about might be struggling with life. This day is called ‘R U OK? Day’ (are you okay?).
The R U OK? Day is embedded at BESIX Watpac, like in thousands of businesses, corporations, schools, and community groups in Australia. It is a perfect opportunity to shed light on mental wellbeing and provide practical advice on self care and how to support others. Our Australian colleagues share some tips with us.
You can do it too
“Next time you meet a colleague, friend, member of your family, don’t hesitate to raise the question and take the time to listen. R U OK? is a simple question… that can make a significant difference!”
“By starting a conversation and commenting on the changes you’ve noticed, you could help that family member, friend or colleague open up. If they say they are not OK, you can follow the conversation steps below to show them they’re supported and help them find strategies to better manage the load. If they are OK, that person will know you’re someone who cares enough to ask.”
Concrete steps to start a conversation
1. Ask R U OK?
- Be relaxed, friendly and concerned in your approach.
- Open up by asking questions like "How are you going?" or "What’s been happening?"
- Mention specific things that have made you concerned, like "You seem less chatty than usual. How are you going?"
2. Listen with an open mind
- Take what they say seriously and don't interrupt or rush the conversation.
- Don’t judge their experiences or reactions but acknowledge that things seem tough for them.
- Show that you've listened by repeating back what you’ve heard (in your own words) and ask if you have understood them properly.
3. Encourage action
- Ask: “What have you done in the past to manage similar situations?”
- Ask: “How would you like me to support you?"
- If they've been feeling really down for more than 2 weeks, encourage them to see a health professional. Be positive about the role of professionals in getting through tough times.
4. Check-in
- Stay in touch and be there for them. Genuine care and concern can make a real difference.
- You could say: "I've been thinking of you and wanted to know how you've been going since we last chatted."
- Ask if they've found a better way to manage the situation. If they haven't done anything, don't judge them. They might just need someone to listen to them for the moment.